Relationships, Part 2

Interpersonal Exercise #10: Relationships, Part 2

Read DeVito’s Units 8 & 9 “Relationships” (pages 170-212).

What do you look for in a romantic relationship? Why are these characteristics important to you?
I look for someone who is my other half. Someone who compliments me. Compliments me in a way when people look at us they know we are happy together and they wish they could love someone like we love each other. I look for someone who does not like to argue, someone who likes to be happy, and someone who cares about me as much as I care about them. These characterisics are important to me because of my past relationships provided me a way to to see what I needed as a human being. With all this being said, I think I look for a for someone who is either a storge or and eros.

What kind of lover do you consider yourself? (Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania, Agape)

Intially, I thought I was going to be Agape but, then I took the "Test Yourself" on page 198. This stated I was more like a Eros lover. And, after anaylizing the results I can see why. Before the test, I thought I was an agape lover because my mom always tells me I wear my heart on a sleeve. However this is true, on the test I found myself awnsering with one false and that was to the statement, "When my lover gets angry with me, I still love him or her fully and unconditionally." This statement is false for me because when the person I love gets angry at me intially I feel bad but, when i find them acting imature about a situation and just being angry insted of solving the problem, I lose patience for them. It normally results in me breaking up with him. For all the questions for an eros lover I ansered true. This is because I beileve that every person has someone who is ment for them. Someone that they cannot live without once they ment him or her. They understand each other completely and work hard to keep one another.

What do you look for in a friendship? What kind of a friend do you consider yourself?

I look for someone who can make me laugh and will always be there no matter what. According to the book this would mean I look for someone who provides utility (skill of making me laugh), and security. I am the friend that everyone confides in when they are down to cheer them up. I am always there for people when they need me. I find it to be a gift. My friends mom died rescently and I was the first person he came to. Within hours of hugging him and encouraging him that I was there for him, I got him to not only smile but, laugh a little. I think it is a gift. With that being said the book would characterize me as the ego support.

Give an example in your life of each of the types of friendships. (Reciprocity, Receptivity, Association)

Reciprocity: An example in my life of reciprocity, is my bestfriend Cody. We are completely loyal to each other. We both care just the same for each other. When I was ill in the hospital he came to visit me. He was my only friend who was there for me. He came to my house every day when I was ill just to check on me and keep me company while i was practically locked up in the house with mono. If that's not dedication to a friend I do not know what is. If Cody ever got ill I would be there for him too. I know if I ever need him I can call him, and whenever he needs me, he calls me.

Receptivity: An example in my life of receptivity friendship, is my parents and I. There is an imbalance between us. My parents give and provide for me so I can grow as a person successfully. However the imbalance, it works in this situation because we are both satisfied. My parents get the satisfaction of seeing their kid grow up right and I get the satisfaction of growing up.

Association: An example in my life of association friendship are the kids I graduated with. While we pass each other durring christmas breaks back from college we exchange hello's and sometimes ask how one another are doing. But, we never go deeper in communication.

TED TALKS

I watched a speech on what a doodle is and why it is important to doodle. Which, can be found here.
I enjoyed this speech a lot for the following reasons:

• I'm a doodler.
• It was not the ordinary speech.
• I liked her final sentence; it was not a quote from some famous person but, it was very profound and could be quoted by someone else.
• She added humor to her speech.
• She had a structured speech; she addressed the issue and its importance, had an argument, and conclued with why she was right.

Also, here is a link to an article simular to what she spoke about. Click me.

If only I had 10,000 dollars...

As a kid, I thought, "If only I had a dollar. Then I could get a piece of candy." These days I dream of getting even an extra hundred dollars on a pay check. When it comes to 10,000 dollars, it becomes mind blowing. It has taken me a long thought to what I would do with that kind of money. In reality, since I am a very logical person, I would put the 10,000 dollars in a savings account so when i graduated from college I could began paying my loans off. However, that sounds boring. If I spent my money on frivolous items, I would buy stuff for my house I am moving into as of December. Here are items I would love to have!

I don't have a sofa yet. Therefore, that is first on the list. Price: Definatly not priceless--$720

Next up, I need a table to match the sofa. Price: $350

Now, I need a pretty descent TV to watch Telivion while relaxing on that fancy sofa. Price: $412
Pretty Awesome TV that has a Ipod deck!

With a TV, I will need a new Xbox 360. Why not go with the new limited edition MW3 consol package? Price: $400

^Pretty funny video ehh?

Now, I have litterally dreamed about one of these. No pun intended. Price: $3,000

If you didn't notice it's a Tempur-Pedic.

Furthermore, I work full-time, go to school full, and an overall busy life. I am going to need a way to kick back at the end of my days. What's a better way then in a huge hot tub? Price: $3,500

All these items bring me to a grand total of $8,382. This is not 10,000 though. But, seeing as I am a broke college student I will have to use the $1,618 dollars to fill my hot tub with water. Otherwise, there will be no relaxing.

Total Expenditure: Ten G's

Rob Larson at his best

"Coke is better than Pepsi."
This quote grabbed my attention because I definately perfer coke over pepsi. It has a stronger taste then Pepsi. My mom and I fight over this all the time because she likes to buy Pepsi. It was even worse when she got into the kick of diet Pepsi. Talk about disgusting and just as bad for you because of the artifical sugar is practically aspartame. Aspartame is the same thing found in formeldahyde. Do we really want that in our bodies? Well, each to their own. Check out this article below. It is quite interesting!
Coke Versus Pepsi Article

"75 million comedians in the world and you're telling jokes."
This really made me laugh. It was a joke all on its own. I will definately be using this on my friends and co-workers. Specially my co-workers. Sometimes at work we all can get craby because the job his high pace and customer based. When people are getting stressed or upset at work I like to tell corny jokes to get a bare minimum of a smile. Some jokes I come up with on my own or I tell clean laffy taffy jokes. In addition, at the end of a busy work week I like to bring in laffy taffy for my employees. It kind of puts everyone in a better mood. We all share our jokes on our laffy taffy.
One of my rescent jokes is:
(Q)Why do sword fish have a nose that is 11 inches?
(A) If it were 12 inches, it would be a foot!

"Take one pill and all your homework will be done."
If only it actually worked this way. Procrastination is definatly a fight between the body and mind. Sometimes, its hard to do what we have to do. Many times I ask myself, am I overwhelmed with the load of things I must do? Sometimes this is true; other times, I just need to force myself to do what I don't wish to do. Below here is an article I really enjoyed, and I think many of you will too.
10 ways to make laziness work for you

"We wish we sounded like we sound inside ourselfs"
I completly agree. When i was younger I had a sist in my nose that made my voice sound very nasely. However, I didn't become aware of this until I heard my self on an awnsering machine. It made me very self consious. I wish I had never heard the awnsering machine so I could pretend I sounded the way I had always thought I sounded. Check out the article below that talks about why we sound different!
Why do we sound different?

"The device you carry around with you, atleast in the academic world is important."
I think this statement you made is correct; however, I wish it were not true. Growing up is difficult enough with all the other status quos. It's not the easiest to fit in. You need the right clothes, the right last name, the right car, the right friends, and the right boyfriend/girlfriend. As if this was not enough pressure but, now devices too. I saw this all happening before my eyes. It started in middle school, who ever had the fastest internet had the friends over at their place. Now it is not just internet speed but, what kind of cell phone you own. It's sad that status quos exsist but, it is part of life. We are only human.

"Most of you will be going to work for the internet."
I understand the point Rob Larson was trying to make. Technology is huge. I, myself use it all day, everyday. Heck, I am using it right now to publish this blog. However, I find it hard to beileve we will all go to work for the internet. I have hard time thinking that we could possibly create anymore online jobs. I am not saying Rob Larson is incorrect. I mean, I am sure no one a hundred years ago expected the technology of a cell phone. Rob Larson, may in fact be right. Here is part of an essay, I find to be related to this quote and that is very interesting. Click Me!

Gilly! Sorry...

I searched and searched my memory bank of my favorite videos; I finally remembered this one. It became apparent this was the perfect video. It's extremely hilarious yet, gets a point across that bullying is wrong no matter who it is to or how old people are.

Click Me For Video

Some of you may have seen this video before. It is not only one of my favorite videos but, also one of my favorite Saturday Night Live skit. As seen from this hilarious SNL skit, bullying is wrong. No matter how scared you may be from the bullier, speak up and get help from someone.

Why Bother? (Debate)

My biggest concern with society is why we care what other people are doing all the time. This person likes so and so, this person dose not exercise enough, this person is pregnant, and this person smokes. Who cares? What other people do is what they do. With this being said the tobacco ban being implemented January 1st, should not. Several factors contribute to why the tobacco ban should not be implemented such as: its economicallyy incorrect, it goes against America's so called freedoms, and banning tobacco just causes more issues.

During the debate in class, I focused on two points economics and possible problems resulting from a tobacco ban. In class, I mentioned sin tax; some people took it as I was saying scholatica makes taxes. However, that was not my point. My point is eliminating tobacco use will result in a decrease of revenue for the government. This becomes a result because with less opportunity to smoke or chew tobacco on campus, there is less consumption. Therefore, resulting in less sin tax that provides the goverment with revenue for expenditures. However, Scholastica is one college, the more colleges that become tobacco-free, the more that follow. There are many followers in this world and few that take a stand as a leader. I feel Scholastica is not taking a stand in becoming tobacco free but, rather following suit with the rest of the country in judging what others do in their free time.

Overall, I felt my team for pro-tobacco use on campus did a great job. I felt we went above the limit of focusing only on one main point. The other group did a good job, but I felt they focused on statistics that had to do with smoking illnesses that smokers are aware of. Furthermore, their side brought up what they thought were economic points which, they should not have, any economic professor will tell you it is economically incorrect to ban tobacco use. I don't think either team deserves less then a A. Both teams were prepared but, stronger in different areas of the debate.

Here is a video to bring a little bit of light to the subject. I find it slightly funny anywho!

READING

i carry your heart with me

By :

E. E. Cummings 1894–1962

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in

my heart)i am never without it(anywhere

i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done

by only me is your doing,my darling)

                                                      i fear

no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want

no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)

and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant

and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows

(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud

and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows

higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)

and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

 

I picked this reading for it means two things to me.

First, my mother always tells me I wear my heart on my sleeve. Second, I always carry my friends who have past away in my heart, my soul, and mind.